After a month off to enjoy summer vacation with my family, I’m back! Anyone else feel like they blinked and summer was over! It went too fast, but what a great couple months we had with Audrey and Jack. Hoping y’all had a wonderful summer full of yummy bbq, lots of sunshine, and memories to last a lifetime. Speaking of vacation, today’s blog is all about a new approach to how you might vacation once in a while.
Vacation time, it’s the time of year the entire family looks forward to. Whether it’s a summer week spent at the beach, or a winter weekend skiing the mountains, family trips are always full of fun. Like most families, we always vacation together but this year I decided to include a different type of family vacation. I decided to take a three day trip with just my daughter! A little mommy-daughter journey. At first, it felt odd to be without my husband and son but it didn’t take long to start feeling the benefits of a little one-on-one time with little miss. Rather than sharing the fun memories created from our trip (which were many), I wanted to focus on the benefits of taking a vacation/short trip with one parent and one child. These are my top four reasons you and your partner should consider solo trips with each child.
1. No competition – If you have more than one child then odds are, your children compete about EVERYTHING. Who has the bigger ice cream sundae, who runs faster, who get’s in the car first, who get’s to read with mom, who get’s to read with dad, who colors the best, and so on. Just the other day my kids were arguing/competing about who pees faster. I mean…really? You do your best to make things fair for each child but of course someone is always complaining. We all raise are kids to be grateful for what they have, but the truth is they are always worried about what everyone else has. When your child has no sibling to focus on competing with, he/she will be more focused on the moment and considerably more thankful for that ice cream sundae, regardless of its size.
2. Quality bonding – When you travel as a family, the focus moves around. Each sibling has different interests that you try to fulfill, and you’re trying to spend quality time with your partner, but it’s a juggling act for everyone in the family. Simply put – Your attention is always divided and sought after. I loved having the opportunity to focus on and bond with just my daughter. Everything from eating with just her, singing songs in the car with just her, sharing first adventures with just her, to sharing a bed with just her. Being able to give all my love, affection, and attention to one child was rewarding on so many levels.
I’m not suggesting that y’all start taking separate trips on a regular basis. My most cherished time is when our entire family is together creating lasting memories. Maybe next year my husband and daughter will go off on an adventure, and maybe the following year my son and I will. Maybe our trip will be for three days again, or maybe it will be for one night only. There is no special formula on how you choose to have separate vacation time, it’s what works for your family but I highly suggest giving it a try. The benefits listed above apply to children of all ages. Whether your kids are toddlers or teenagers there are many positives to traveling one-on-one. I think parents feel guilty leaving another child behind but I’m here to say–> Don’t feel guilty, feel the joy you will get out of your one-on-one time. Embrace the opportunity to bond and build upon your relationship with each child. Think of the adventure and memories you will create while exploring a new town or city together. Our mother daughter trip will be a special memory in my heart forever, and I can’t wait to have one with my son!